C.E.O. EXCHANGENo One Is Perfect?
Contributing Correspondent: Ted Santos
Before you respond to the title, consider the following. If you
observe the universe, it’s perfect. The same is true for nature on our planet.
The collaboration between the celestial planets and stars allows life to thrive
in great abundance. With that said, if you look at human beings, we are part of
nature. In fact, it could be said we are, like all animals, nature. If nature is
perfect, that makes people perfect. But…..
We have been conditioned to believe we are not perfect. As a result,
we spend enormous amounts of time examining our own imperfections as well as
flaws of others. How can nature be so perfect and us humans defective? That’s an
As it stands, if we were an operating system in a computer, we would
spend more than 75% of our time looking for something wrong. That would make us
an inefficient operating system for the computer. We would spend so much time
constantly looking for something wrong that we would not be able to meet the
demands a computer user wants to accomplish. Our operating system would be
preoccupied with finding something wrong, even if there was nothing wrong.
How did this happen? We have been conditioned to protect ourselves.
We inherited a mental model that worries about physical and psychological
danger. For example, although nature is perfect, when a volcano erupts, we call
it a natural disaster. Yet, when the lava cools, it becomes extremely fertile
soil. Nature knows exactly what she is doing and she has a plan. We are not
privy to her plan; or so we believe.
Perhaps it is our incessant desire to judge, assess, give opinions
and view life with a fear that impedes our ability to see the perfection in
nature and ourselves. If I were to remove every human from earth and put you
into a rocket ship that orbited the earth for 1 million years, you would see the
perfection of nature on earth and how she dances with the universe. Over the
course of 1 million years, you would see cycles that happen once a year or every
100, 1,000 and even every 100,000 years.
During that time, there would be many floods, earthquakes, meteors,
hurricanes and other phenomena that are categorized as disasters. You would also
see animals go extinct and new species arise. Icebergs would melt and reappear.
At some point, you would begin to distinguish signals that a volcano is going to
erupt or a tornado is coming. In time, it would no longer be chaotic. It would
be a symphony. Instead of a disaster, it would be phenomenon that occurs in
cycles. That phenomenon would be perfect, even though it appears to disrupt the
If we could step back and see the natural cycles in life that occur
as part of the process, we could be free to dance with it, instead of fear it.
As long as we judge those cycles as wrong or disasters, we will have fear. The
same goes for the way we dance with other human beings. Perhaps our judgments
and assessments of one another are so heavily influenced by the fear of
something being wrong, we are unable to see the beauty and perfection in each of
While it may sound as though I have oversimplified a way to approach
life, I have not. The most difficult part is unlearning inimical behavior. The
biggest challenge to that occurs because some of our thought processes that we
believe are our strengths are the ones that create the biggest blind spots. For
example, the idea of being tough presupposes you are weak and you have to prove
that you are not. This is a self-judgment that impedes developing empowering
relationships with others.
The process of unlearning in order to discover how perfect you
already are requires a huge commitment. Perhaps the best way to unlearn is to do
it with a coach. It would have to be someone who could help you distinguish
behaviors that derail you. At the same time, that person would have to supply
you with tools that keep you on track. Ideally, it would be best for the people
in your community to join you on this journey. Creating a life without judgment,
assessment and fear would be more pleasant. And that would make it much easier
to enjoy the beauty life offers, even in the face of disruption and
What do you think? I’m open to ideas. Or if you want to write me
about a specific topic, connect through my blog www.turnaroundip.blogspot.com.
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